Tips for Relationship Wellness
Stop the argument before it goes too far – take a time out,
cool down, come back to the discussion and resume calmly
Make date nights and alone time a priority; frequent sex is
good for your health and good for the relationship
Listen to each other, try to understand and empathize. Life can be tough – become each other’s safe
place from the storms of life.
Apologize and make amends when you mess up!
Put the relationship with your partner before your
relationship with the kids! Your
relationship is the soil that the children grow in – healthy soil creates
healthy children!
Find or create common interests and activities, especially
around exercise and activities that get you both moving; build memories
together; become each other’s best friend
Use anniversaries and birthdays as opportunities to take
stock of the relationship; be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, set
goals and make a plan to make things better
Don’t expect your partner to automatically know what you
need. Request- not demand- what you need
and then explain to your partner how that helps you. Express thanks and gratitude when they
cooperate!
Use thoughtful gestures, kind words and actions to create an
atmosphere of warmth and caring within the relationship.
Spend more time telling your partner what they’ve done right
than what they’ve done wrong. It takes 5
positive statements to overcome 1 negative statement!
Connect with each other spiritually; observe religious
practices together; find a cause to volunteer for and support together.
Regularly hold family business meetings to discuss finances,
the calendar, parenting, the needs of the family, come up with an action plan
and implement the plan.
