Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Tips for Relationship Wellness

Stop the argument before it goes too far – take a time out, cool down, come back to the discussion and resume calmly
Make date nights and alone time a priority; frequent sex is good for your health and good for the relationship
Listen to each other, try to understand and empathize.  Life can be tough – become each other’s safe place from the storms of life.
Apologize and make amends when you mess up!
Put the relationship with your partner before your relationship with the kids!  Your relationship is the soil that the children grow in – healthy soil creates healthy children!
Find or create common interests and activities, especially around exercise and activities that get you both moving; build memories together; become each other’s best friend
Use anniversaries and birthdays as opportunities to take stock of the relationship; be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, set goals and make a plan to make things better
Don’t expect your partner to automatically know what you need.  Request- not demand- what you need and then explain to your partner how that helps you.  Express thanks and gratitude when they cooperate!
Use thoughtful gestures, kind words and actions to create an atmosphere of warmth and caring within the relationship. 
Spend more time telling your partner what they’ve done right than what they’ve done wrong.  It takes 5 positive statements to overcome 1 negative statement!
Connect with each other spiritually; observe religious practices together; find a cause to volunteer for and support together.
Regularly hold family business meetings to discuss finances, the calendar, parenting, the needs of the family, come up with an action plan and implement the plan.

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Spring Update

Spring update from The Counseling and Relationship Center of Murfreesboro:

Did you know? 

  • We recently added telemental health services for the convenience of our established clients.  Telemental health allows for secure individual sessions through web-based video conferencing.  Contact your therapist for more information.
  •  will have a booth at the upcoming Be Well Boro Health and Wellness Fair at Stones River Mall on Saturday, April 16 from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m.  Stop by our table and others, register for door prizes and learn about improving your health and lifestyle.  See you there!
  •  Earlier this year Cameron Carpenter, LPC-MHSP (temp) led a series for parents on Teenagers and the Internet for St. Mark’s United Methodist Church. It highlighted the need for insight and understanding of the generational differences between parent and child, while allowing parents to grow in the knowledge of their children’s needs and behaviors.
  • Teresa Quance, LCSW will be co-hosting a half-day retreat for women this month at beautiful Sinking Creek Farm in Murfreesboro:                                                     Nourish Yourself for a Creative Life:  Women’s Retreat                                       Join us in a refreshing day of self-discovery.                                                             Bring a friend and double the fun!  Relax, recharge, refresh.                                  When: Sunday, April 24, 2016, 9AM – 2PM                                                               Light lunch and soft beverages are included.                                                         For more information about this event go to

About our counselors: 

Rhonda Johnson, LCSW works with individuals and couples to improve their skills for more satisfying lives and relationships.

Cameron Carpenter, LPC-MHSP (temp) continues to serve individuals and families, with a special place in his heart for adolescents and their parents.

Teresa Quance, LCSW specializes in providing tools to women in transition as well as those experiencing anxiety, grief and depression.  Change isn’t always easy, but it doesn’t have to be hard. 

Visit our website at for more about our practice.